"Coming Into Focus"

Sometimes, time is necessary for things to come into focus. You think you know people, but then time goes by and you find you didn’t know them quite as well as you thought you did. The funny thing is, you pick up on these little things, subtle hints of their true personalities and you think to yourself, “Why didn’t I listen or pay attention to these things?” Denial can be a nasty habit to break even if simply dropped because it can be as subtle as the hints and so resilient, it only bounces back to hit you in the nose. Putting your trust in others can be painful. It can also be the most beautiful experience of your life!

It’s so difficult to find a true and lasting friendship, but when you do…Oh Man! Again, it’s the most beautiful experience! I dare to say that this problem isn’t new to the human race due to the shrinkage of the world we live in. Like other issues we face nowadays, it has only become more exposed. Generations come and go but the attributes of the human race have really stayed the same. We have only become more aware of these things and countless other tragedies, as well as wonderful things, because of the times in which we live and the technology we have come to know.

I have learned not to expect a great deal from others. I can always hope for the best but I surely expect the worst. But, if I can be patient enough, understanding enough, and most importantly, learn to walk in someone else’s shoes and not judge them on these subtle hints, while at the same time, look in the mirror and actually see that I am no different nor better, then I can honestly say to myself, “I told you so!”

Once you have focus and the truth is revealed, all one can do is accept it as it is and move on, but also keep in mind that those who you really care about, regardless of what you may see once you have gained focus of who they really are, they are people, too. They have the same lack of focus you have about others and, possibly even you, and the truth is revealed to them as time goes on.